The Difference Between Alimony and Spousal Support

Though I don’t know much about how spousal support works, I do know someone who gets it. I’m not sure if it is the same thing as alimony, but I’m pretty sure it’s not. As far as I know, spousal support is for a spouse who has been separated but is not yet divorced while alimony is for those who have been through divorce. My friend is indeed separated, and she gets some of her husband’s money each month. Though I don’t always think this is fair, in her case, it’s more than fair.

When her husband decided to have a series of affairs, he destroyed the trust that should be first and foremost in a marriage. To make things worse, my friend found out they were expecting, and he really didn’t care enough to break off his extramarital affair to try to repair the damage. He’s now paying for that decision in the form of spousal support. He whines and complains about having to pay so much in support, but he really did bring it on himself. What I don’t understand is why he didn’t see it coming.

I don’t even think my friend was thinking about spousal support when she got it. She was more concerned about him paying child support for their daughter. The person she spoke with suggested she also file for spousal support. She gave him the opportunity to talk his way out of it and he refused. All he had to do was commit to helping her pay off the bills that had piled up due to his idiocy. He refused, so she decided the spousal support would be a good idea. It could at least make up for some of the financial problems he had caused her.

They ended up taking child and spousal support from his meager paycheck. She says she can’t feel bad about it because he ran up the debts all on his own, and she should have to pay it back herself. She also says her child is more important than his weekends away with whatever woman he fancies that week. Even though spousal support has dipped deep into his paycheck, he still doesn’t seem to get it. I guess some will never learn. Though you may think me harsh, you have to realize this man acted worse than any playboy you could imagine, probably because he fancies himself a local stud. If you knew her story, you’d be digging through his wallet yourself just to give her whatever money he had.